Smartphones have made the internet and connectivity ever present. We take our phones wherever we go and feel lost without them. We feel we need connectivity but, as discussed previously , it is a much deeper need than that.
Smartphones are our catalyst for instant gratification. Any time we feel bored or restless we can pick up our phone and get a little spike of dopamine by looking at a picture of a funny cat, validating our virtual image on social media, or catching a missed call or text.
I was in a lecture recently on the subject of substance abuse and drug addiction. Specifically, on the way that dopamine is triggered by not just the use of drugs, but also cues associated with that drug. For example, returning to the same room you took the drug in, or being with the same people you took the drugs with. These cues are not exclusive to drugs but any addictive behaviour, such as gambling or on-line gaming.
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Relationships. You have negotiated the dating stage and have found a partner. You settle into the conferable space of a relationship; the ups, downs and early nights in. Life seems good!
What strikes me with this picture is where has the buzz of the ‘Dating Game’ Gone? As I have discussed previously much of our lives is governed by the use of technology from an emotional and cognitive viewpoint. We have spent the last few months getting rather good at meeting and talking to people via online dating sites, having our pick and getting a boost of self-esteem. Where do we get that from now?
I was at the cinema recently and as normal I was struck by the amount of phones in use throughout the film. Now the film in question was great – not the usual mindless Hollywood blockbuster however, but instead a title a bit more heartfelt, a bit grittier. What’s the relevance?
Connecting to Technology
How often do you pick up your mobile phone throughout the day? Two or three times maybe? 10? Or even more? It’s old news that Smartphones have enabled us to connect to others in new ways through the internet. And by the nature of our Smartphones we have access to that connection wherever and whenever we want.
We have started using our Smartphones on the way to and from the office, our computer at work and tablets at home. The indoctrination of mobile technology has resulted in the way we connect and live within our society; to be intrinsically bound within the use of the internet. So much so that it does not seem viable to live without a constant connection to it.
I was recently reading an introduction to the psychologist and linguist Jacques Lacan. Much of his work involved making sense of how we understand and conceptualise our reality into language. Essentially Lacan argues that
I noticed an interesting report on the BBC news website a month ago or so concerning a growing trend of excessive use of social media by school children while doing online homework. It states that many parents try and control their children but find it hard to regulate how they use the internet. I can hear many of you say the same as one parent who says: “There have always been distractions. I can remember being told off for reading Jackie magazine inside my textbooks.” So, has anything changed?
When receiving feedback from my last blog entry on labelling internet addiction I received a twitter comment from @forwardtherapy, stating “My professional experience is, the label is less significant than discussing Internet use as a response to life circumstances”.
Much of my blog is focused on the rise in attention many of us are putting into the internet and technology. To me at least it seems that tech is taking up more and more of our time and changing the way we relate to each other, society and indeed ourselves.
I was recently writing a paper on how CBT has changed the theory and practice of integrative psychotherapy. What became instantly apparent was that CBT is a reaction to the society in which it is born out of, similarly to Psychoanalysis at the beginning of the 20th century.