Have you ever criticised your own thoughts, feelings and actions? You might think to yourself for example: ‘Don’t try to do that new thing because you will never succeed’ or ‘Drink 5 coffees to wake up’ before tell you ‘how silly you are for drinking so much and feeling anxious.’
How do you feel about saying no ? Do you still say yes to going out when you would rather be at home? or do you say yes to lending someone money when you don’t have it to give?
You might not even know why you find it hard to say no, yet you find you can’t help it. It’s almost instinctive
You may have dreams of setting up a business, getting a new job or even playing a professional sport, but you don’t get very far because you’d sooner give up.
Recently I heard some people talking about a business idea a friend of theirs had.
They were discussing the business and then one of them stated that he is ‘nothing special.’ What he did was ‘easy’ and that ‘anyone could have done it.‘
How many times have you had something to do yet you leave it and leave it You know you should do it now in order to get it done to the best of your ability and yet you still procrastinate. You’ll do it tomorrow or after this episode on Netflix. You delay it again and again until you have to rush at the last minute.
It’s daunting looking into the distance and thinking ‘how am i going to reach my dreams’. You may have thoughts of inadequacy or fear.
You may ask yourself, can I do this? Am I ready? Am I good enough?
Everyone has hopes and dreams. Yet how is it that some people achieve their dreams and others don’t?
One of the main reasons is that they try. Therefore ask yourself, why not try?
For many the thought of failing is so binding and fills you with dread and anxiety, that we are unable able to.
What I want to look at are the most common reasons that stop people from trying.
What are you scared of?
Is it a physical object or trying something new?
We might not even realise that we are scared, but we take ourselves out of situations unconsciously that could evoke the feeling of being scared.
Let’s say, you have always dreamt your life would be a certain way. A certain job or lifestyle for example, yet you wake up every morning doing something you don’t enjoy in order to make ends meet.
Why am I lacking motivation?
Many would like to try new things and achieve more but feel unable to. They feel like they are lacking motivation, but that’s not the whole story.