How do you feel about yourself? I hear on a daily basis people wanting to be taller, slimmer, better looking, more intelligent or more money and confidence. There is always something seemingly wrong and the focus is never on what people can do well.
What would you change about yourself if you could?
Whatever the answer is, it boils down to the same thing – you are not good enough. If you were better looking more people would like you, if you were more intelligent you would get your dream job and so on.
In actuality, you have what it takes to get to where you want to be, but those negative stories you tell yourself are you trying to understand why you are not getting what you want. You can’t blame anyone else only yourself.
Does this sound familiar?
Is it really your fault?
Think about this for a moment, maybe you made a wrong decision once, but this doesn’t mean you are not good enough.
Society says that you should be a certain way but this only focuses on the success stories. We are surrounded by airbrushed photographs of the perfect person and this alters a sense of reality.
Here are my 4 steps to being happy with who you are and helping you to get what you want out of life:
Step One: Stop comparing yourself to others
There is no way of know other’s life experiences and circumstances. You don’t know how many times they have tried, how long they have been doing it for or the help they have gotten to get there. You are not them, so stopping comparing yourself.
Step Two: List your bad points
Whether you don’t feel tall enough, not pretty enough or not intelligent enough, write this all down. See them as what they are, just attributes with no real substance, words on paper. This is all story you have been telling yourself as to why you can’t get where you want to get to with no substance.
Step Three: Now use your imagination
If you woke up tomorrow and had all of those things on that list. All the things you have ever wanted, how would you feel? How would you act and what would you do? How would your life be different?
Step Four: Be that person
Step four might seem odd but trust me I have seen it work. The person that you imagined in step three, that sense of confidence, happiness and contentment – you have all of that inside of you, focus on it and use it. Be that person. Nothing has changed but you know what it feels like to have it. So use it. Be the person you want to be.
You have what it takes to be happy with who you are and to be the person you want to be. You are enough, you have what it takes, go and be that person!
All the best and see you soon