Jealousy is a response to something that you want but don’t feel able to achieve.
Underlying that feeling of jealousy is frustration and anger for not having what others do have. It is seen within our society as wrong to act on these emotions, so we are taught to run from ‘bad’ or ‘negative’ feelings.
To be rich, successful or even happy, you need self-belief. Self-belief gives the strength to want, try, get what you want and pick yourself up when things go wrong.
Many go through life not believing in themselves. Why is that? There can be any number of reasons, such as being bullied at school or people telling you that you can’t do it.
Feeling alone can be awful.
You can be surrounded by people but you can still feel like no one understands you or that you can’t be yourself.
Feeling lonely is just like feeling any number of negative emotions such as sadness, anger or frustration. It is a feeling telling you that something needs to change in your life.
Sometimes that feeling of loneliness can be so powerful that you find it impossible to think or feel anything else. You might feel stuck in a perpetual loop of sadness or self-hatred.
You have been taught to say sorry when you do something wrong, yet so many say sorry even when you have done nothing wrong.
You may not realise that saying sorry when you have done nothing wrong makes you look weak and has a negative impact on your personal and professional life.
After time, you can start saying sorry for anything that makes you different and special from anyone else.
How do you deal with frustration?
Frustration makes you feel limited and trapped, and that feeling stops you from seeing a way out.
The reason you feel this way is because you have never been taught to understand the message of your more negative emotions.
You are told not to feel sad and to take your mind away from the frustration; do something fun and just be happy!
Do you ever feel sorry for yourself?. You feel nothing is going your way, it always happens to you, you are the unluckiest person in the world.
So let’s get down to it why it is that you feel sorry for yourself.
I was recently writing a paper on how CBT has changed the theory and practice of integrative psychotherapy. What became instantly apparent was that CBT is a reaction to the society in which it is born out of, similarly to Psychoanalysis at the beginning of the 20th century.
Do you find that you compare yourself to others? Wishing you were more successful, richer or fitter, and stopping you from being truly happy.
Comparing yourself to others is something that we have all been genetically programmed to do in order to feel safe, secure and happier in general.
Self-discipline is something that isn’t easy to hold onto.
You tell yourself that you’ll do it later because you would rather be having fun right now; only to either forget to do it, rush doing it or not do it at all.
Why is it so hard just to do it there and then?
You have been told that you should put others needs before our own. You’re never thinking about what you want first. Is that right? Is that how life should be?
How often do you put others first? Sometimes, all the time, or every time?