Why do you bully online? A Rise in Doxing

Anonymity on the Internet is a double-edged sword. On one hand, it gives you the freedom to become whoever you want to be. On the other hand, it might encourage you to take out your frustrations on other people. If you’re wondering why you bully online and want to stop, this blog is for you.

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Finding balance ahead of Christmas

The festive season should be a relaxing time spent with loved ones. Unfortunately, this might not always be the case for all of us. The Christmas season is full of joy but also responsibilities. The bad might outweigh the good if you aren’t careful and give in to the pressure. So how can you lighten your load, find balance and manage expectations this Christmas?

Is Christmas really the most wonderful time of the year?

We’re flooded by commercials that depict an idealised version of Christmas; happy families that never fight, a pile of presents, snowy weather and the perfect Christmas tree, which increases our expectations. You might feel pressured to make sure that your Christmas is as close to what you see on TV as possible.

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Being an only child, is there still a stigma?

Being an only child has always been associated with a bad start in life. In recent years, however, more families have gone against cultural expectations and decided to stop at one. Is the stigma finally decreasing or is there more to that decision?

The stigma of being an only child 

Women tend to be judged for their reproductive choices, including the decision to not try for a second. The judgement is due to several stereotypes including:

  • They grow up to be selfish
  • Spoiled because they receive too much parental attention
  • Have no siblings to learn social skills from

Recent research shows that these beliefs are a misconception. One example is a study that investigated if only children were more likely to be narcissistic than those who had a sibling.

It turns out that the stereotype is inaccurate. At the same time, the study revealed that many people still believe being an only child equals negative personality traits.

So if the stigma persists, why is having one child becoming the new norm?

The increase in families with one child

‘One-and-done’ parenting is a growing trend. In 2022, families with one child made up 44% of families in the UK. In comparison, families with two children made up 41% and those with 3 and more only 15%. 

This is an increase of 12% over the last 11 years in single-child families.

One of the reasons family dynamics are changing seems to be financial factors. As costs of living are rising, many parents can’t afford more than one baby to care for. Additionally, biological limitations play a role; women tend to start a family later in life and the fertility window closes before they try for a second child. 

People also begin to realise that single-child families have their benefits.

Parents can give their undivided attention, have more energy to spare and develop a stronger bond as a result. Parents are also able to allow for their own needs and self-care more and therefore create a more positive family dynamic.

As research shows, opting for one child might be a smarter choice for families’ mental health too. For example, Danish research looked at the effect of having children on parents’ happiness. While having a first-born child was found to increase a mother’s well-being, it wasn’t the case for having a second child. Being a parent often goes hand in hand with sleepless nights, chronic stress and postpartum depression so it’s not surprising some women don’t want to go through it twice. 

As the number of single-child families is expected to keep increasing, the stigma will hopefully disappear. Ultimately, the happier parents are with their choice, the happier your family will be regardless of societal expectations. 

Bluey and the (banned) episode, ‘Smoochy Kiss’

Our YouTube audience have loved hearing some insight on the Disney Plus show Bluey. So much so that we had to offer some commentary on a specific episode, one of several that Disney Plus originally refused to publish on their streaming service – ‘Smoochy Kiss’

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For those who don’t already know, Bluey is an animated Disney Plus series for children. It’s a wholesome story that follows the life of a puppy called Bluey and her sister Bingo who play imaginative games with their parents and learn valuable life lessons along the way. 

Can we actually learn something from Bluey?

Bluey is more than just entertainment. One of the reasons the show is so popular among children and their parents is that it promotes a healthy family dynamic that features everyone spending quality time together and accepting each other’s flaws. 

Some episodes are an honest portrayal of a family life that has fun but also engages in behaviours typically seen as disgusting.

In ‘Smoochy Kiss’, Bluey and her sister learn about their dad’s gross habits.

Even though being a little gross is human (like having bad breath in the morning) and accidents can happen to all of us (a gravy stain on a t-shirt), it’s not something we see on TV often. This lack of representation creates expectations of how we should be and might pressure us to be perfect. As a result, many peoples feel embarrassed when they fulfil their basic needs and engage in natural behaviours such as going to the toilet.

While the content of the episode might seem gross to some, those real-life examples are a way to teach kids that they shouldn’t be ashamed of who they are, which can help them develop higher self-esteem. If characters they look up to aren’t afraid to be true to themselves, they have no reason to be either.

“You gotta take the good with the bad”

Another important takeaway is that “you gotta take the good with the bad” when you’re in a relationship. Bluey and her sister are surprised that their mum doesn’t mind their dad’s habits; she sees him for who he is and doesn’t expect him to be perfect all the time. While you can grow with someone during good times, it’s how you handle the bad times that determines if you can have a loving and committed relationship. 

Parents find this angle refreshing because it’s just how it is in real life: there’s the good and the bad, the fun and the gross. 

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