What does confidence look like these days?

Self-confidence means “the belief that you can do things well and that other people respect you.” But how has this view changed over time?

How was confidence viewed in the past?

Historically, people viewed confidence as a trait that some individuals were born with. The stereotype of the go-getting businessman or politician. Outspoken, sometimes brash, charismatic leaders in their field. These stereotypes were usually male, and in the past there was a significant confidence gap between men and women. That you could cultivate and grow self-confidence was not as prevalent an idea as it is today.

How is confidence viewed now?

We see confidence as a positive trait that can lead to success. Studies have shown that what is called the gender confidence gap stems from societal understandings of gender roles, fear of failure, or simply a lack of belief in oneself.

Confidence is clearly not solely a male or female trait, but something that individuals in any area of expertise can develop and nurture.

With a shift in perspective, we can see confidence in a new light. It isn’t a one-size-fits-all trait, but a diverse and inclusive characteristic that anyone willing to put in the work can cultivate.

What’s changed?

Confidence is now more about internal factors. Something that comes from knowing your worth and setting boundaries for yourself. People used to use phrases like “fake it till you make it” to boost self-esteem. Today, the emphasis is on self-awareness and self-respect, with confidence being about respecting both your worth and your boundaries.

For example, young people today are less likely to stay in a toxic work environment. Or put up with an environment or relationships in which they don’t feel valued.

When we embrace a new view of confidence that focuses on being true to ourselves, it can lead to a greater sense of self-acceptance. Empowering us to live authentically and unapologetically. This mindset shift allows us to be more open about our insecurities and issues without fearing judgement.

I know people that are happy to discuss their mental health issues, or problems with addiction, in an open way that would have been almost unheard of a generation or more ago.

How can you build self-confidence?

The good news is that we can improve our confidence. Something that can be a challenging but rewarding process.

• Boost your confidence by setting small, achievable goals for yourself and celebrating each accomplishment. This will help you prove to yourself that you are capable and can succeed.
• Another way to build your confidence is to ensure you’re practising good self-care. Taking care of your physical and mental well-being can improve your overall sense of confidence and self-worth. 
• Stop comparing yourself to others. Life isn’t a competition, and drawing comparisons with other people can make us envious.
• Journaling is a useful tool to help you understand your feelings and decipher what you really want. The key is to take action on those feelings, setting yourself realistic targets.