It’s Friday, and many of you I’m sure are feeling relief to be able to step away from work and enjoy the weekend. When you feel that relief it’s usually accompanied by a jolt of anxiety, but about Sunday. When Sunday roles around, you feel the Sunday Blues or the Sunday Scaries.
It’s that jolt of fear you feel at the realisation that a new work week starts the next day. It’s such a familiar feeling for many of us, but should it be considered OK?
Unfortunately for you, we are mental health professionals. Any jolt of anxiety, even when society normalises it, is something that needs to be addressed.
The Sunday Scaries is the most commonly known, but it takes several other forms for many other people:
- Parents who feel this at the start of the weekend with fear of entertaining the children.
- A stay at home parent, who feels anxiety on a Sunday when they realise they won’t have the emotional and physical support of their partner during the week.
- The self-employed, the same feeling occurs either from the ping of a new email or their work phone ringing.
So why are these under the same umbrella as ‘Sunday Blues’? The commonality is that there is an imbalance between your work and personal life.
Understanding the disparities can help you to address where you should focus your time more and what is too overwhelming in your average week.
Firstly, take note of when you feel that pang of anxiety. It’s a common jolting feeling and usually occurs when you think of something specific. Either write down or mentally note what the thought was and when it happened.
Whatever made you feel that way is the key to that imbalance. You are feeling this way because, most commonly, you have less control over what will happen than you should.
Feeling anxious about the coming Monday is a sign that you are not in full control within your working week.
Who can you talk to or what steps can you take to allow you to feel more freedom in your work life?
When the weekend rolls around, a parent can feel guilt, anxiety, fear and dread if something isn’t pre-planned to entertain your children.
The weekends for parents are difficult and exhausting if nothing is planned.
So use your fear to help you consider what will make the weekends feel most fulfilling for everyone? Discuss this with your partner or plan some weekends well in advance to ease your mind.
A stay at home parent’s role involves mental and physical labor day and night.
This creates a very common imbalance in your lifestyle yet is often overlooked. It is vital to take your role seriously, to make this clear not just to your partner, but to also know how important your own self-care and boundaries are.