How to be yourself: Listen to your instincts

Wondering how to be yourself? And stop listening to others? Many would like to try new things and achieve more but feel unable to. They feel like they are lacking motivation, but that’s not the whole story.

Throughout people’s lives, they are told by others to, ‘be happy with what you have, ‘stop being selfish’ and ‘you should count your blessings for what you have achieve.’

Then all that is left are thoughts of, ‘what’s the point in trying?’

Do you think ‘Everyone sees my efforts as negative, so maybe I am wrong? Maybe I should stop trying to get better and reach my goals if everyone else is telling me not to’.

Where is your voice?

Don’t get me wrong it’s OK to listen to people’s advice sometimes but it is also important to follow your gut so that you can at least try for what you really want.

This, in part, is linked to safety. It’s safe to stay in the same position, job or relationship as you know what to expect. Safety can be good but it can also be stifling and lead you to feeling demotivated as you are not putting your efforts where you want them to go.

It is important to listen to others advice but, what’s wrong with your voice and your needs? You need to remember to be yourself too.

Be yourself

You know what you want, so why are you listening to everyone else’ Their voice becomes more important than yours.

You are the master of your own happiness so listen to yourself if you feel something needs to be done or you want to try something new.

Think about what you want rather than what other people have told you.

Even saying it can sound silly; someone else telling you what will make you happy. But remember you are the master of what makes you happy. I hasten to add that your safety is important so I do not condone anything illegal.

Why don’t you try one new thing this week? See how it goes listening to your voice rather than everyone else’s.

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