When it comes to being the best version of yourself, and finding success in any of your goals, lying can be a common barrier to achieve that.
We discuss this topic often at Therapy in London, in the therapy rooms, on here, and on our youtube channel.
It’s become such a common topic of discussion that you may be considering if your fibs are ok. If it is not hurting anyone, then are your lies harmless?
Can I lie?
It’s often a common defence mechanism for when you may be feeling:
- Under pressure
- Imposter syndrome
Lying is essentially a way to create a protective barrier between you and the person you are with. In those instances it’s likely that you either don’t feel comfortable around that person, or don’t have faith in yourself and who you are.
If when you lie you feel either relief or a sense of achievement, that can seem like a huge aid to easing your anxiety or stress.
This feeling is just in the short term unfortunately, in those situations you are going to want to find the quickest and easiest sense of relief, and lying can often give you that.
Once that passes however, you are back to where you started.
But should I lie?
It’s important to ask yourself, what were your thoughts right before you do it?
It may feel harmless, but it can become a blocker for you what you truly want for yourself.
Essentially, each time you lie, you are also hiding from your true self.
Without embracing your true self, you can find it more and more difficult to achieve your set goals.
It is simply up to you whether you do it or not. In each and every one of those situations, there is a choice to lie or not.
Lying may feel like a reflex at this point, but you can still take a moment to give yourself a choice in finding out how the truth feels.