It is loneliness awareness week. With the coronavirus at the forefront of our minds, you might be feeling lonely. And that won’t just be the case for people living on their own. Loneliness can even sneak up on you when you’re surrounded by others.
I’m lonely – is there something wrong with me?
This is a common thought if you live with family or friends and still feel lonely, but this couldn’t be further from the truth. Having people around you physically doesn’t mean that you feel that way inside.
There are three key points that you just need to focus on for yourself to help you through this
- The Physical
Firstly, if you don’t connect with someone emotionally then it can be difficult to find support during this pandemic. Even if you have things in common with someone, connecting emotionally is still a vital part of a supportive relationship.
On the other hand, your most emotionally supportive friend or relative may be at the other end of the phone, but not with you right now. This is another difficult hurdle as phone, text, or video just can’t really offer the same connection as face-to-face.
If you are in either of these situations, firstly ask yourself what you want from the people around you. If they aren’t able to give this to you (and be realistic about what they can do for you) then find connection with someone that can.
For example, if you are in a house share but can really connect with your mum who is on the other side of the country, keep up a regular catch up with her. You can use that time to talk about what you wish, and this will create an organic space where you can open up in the moment.
Loneliness is a state of being trying to show you that something is missing in your life.
This is a tricky time for everyone, especially when there are so many restrictions on our social lives. There are ways around conquering your loneliness though. Taking that first step and accepting a window to open up to another is when that connection can solidify and become a stable part of your life.