Anonymity on the Internet is a double-edged sword. On one hand, it gives you the freedom to become whoever you want to be. On the other hand, it might encourage you to take out your frustrations on other people. If you’re wondering why you bully online and want to stop, this blog is for you.Continue reading Why do you bully online? A Rise in Doxing
What is hurry sickness, and why are you hearing about it?
Are you constantly rushing, feeling an urgency to complete tasks, frustrated at any impediment? Always multitasking, unable to sit down or relax? Then you may suffer from hurry sickness.
Hurry sickness is a behaviour pattern characterised by constant panic and rush, even when it’s unnecessary to be moving so fast. It isn’t a diagnosable condition as such; the term was coined by cardiologists Meyer Friedman and Ray Rosenman and made popular in their 1974 book Type A Behaviour and Your Heart.
While there is overlap with neurodivergent conditions, hurry sickness isn’t a symptom of a particular diagnosis. (Although the feeling of being on the go, as if driven by an internal motor, is familiar to me as an adult with ADHD.)
Why are more people feeling the need to rush?
Blame the pace of modern life. We’re permanently switched on, a world of information and communication at our fingertips.
This can lead to overwhelm, as we struggle to switch off and find time for relaxation. We all know the temptation to check our emails or social media first thing in the morning, last thing at night, even when we’re on the loo. Not allowing ourselves a moment of peace when it feels like there’s always something to do.
Frankly, it’s exhausting.
What are the negative impacts of hurry sickness?
It can have a big impact on your health. The chronic stress and anxiety of living in a perpetually rushed state, unable to relax, can weaken your immune system, affecting your energy levels and sleep. Neglecting self-care is common.
The drive to achieve more and more can pull focus from your relationships, meaning you neglect them. Feeling that we’re moving at a different pace to our significant others leads to frustration, arguments, even breakups.
Living in the constant state of stress caused by hurry sickness can lead to burnout.
Can you use it to your advantage?
If you take away some positives of this behaviour pattern while learning to slow down, you could make it work for you.
The trick is to harness your drive without going into overdrive. For which you need…
Tips to manage and overcome hurry sickness
- Slow down – tricky when you’re always rushing, but start small. Rather than trying to remember and complete every task at hand at all times, limit yourself to a realistic goal. Your short-term achievements can add up to time-managed more efficiently.
- Breathing exercises – there are many breathing techniques you can try to allow you to find short term relief and see your goals, tasks and achievements with clarity.
- Prioritise properly – not every task should have equal weight on your to-do list. Prioritise tasks that are time-sensitive or will take extra effort.
- Take breaks – as you work through your to-do list, take time for yourself between tasks.
- Seek additional help – this could mean asking for help or advice at work about setting realistic boundaries, making sure you don’t take on too much, but also personal long term help from a therapist.
I’m willing to put money on the fact that many millennials grew up with the stereotype that seeing a therapist meant you were some sort of menace to society.
Negative stigma surrounding therapy used to be incredibly widespread. Until today. Millennials have not only managed to destigmatise conversations around mental health, but they’re actively seeking out relationships with partners who are, or previously have been, in therapy.
What’s responsible for this shift in millennial relationships?Continue reading Millennial relationships: How hard can they be?
The evolution of relationships has changed a lot over time. To really understand why we have certain expectations about modern day relationships, it helps to look back at where we came from and how we got to this point in time.
1950’s relationships were based on bright new opportunities.
We all have an idealised image of what a fifties relationship was. There were specific gender roles. Men were typically seen as the breadwinners and women were expected to focus on homemaking and raising children.Continue reading Old and present relationships: What can we learn?
It’s Friday, and many of you I’m sure are feeling relief to be able to step away from work and enjoy the weekend. When you feel that relief it’s usually accompanied by a jolt of anxiety, but about Sunday. When Sunday roles around, you feel the Sunday Blues or the Sunday Scaries.
It’s that jolt of fear you feel at the realisation that a new work week starts the next day. It’s such a familiar feeling for many of us, but should it be considered OK?Continue reading Do you get the Sunday Blues (Sunday Scaries) or a similar feeling?
Blue Monday typically refers to the third Monday in January, which is often considered the most depressing day of the year.
Various factors contribute to this heightened low feelings including:
- Weather conditions
- Debt level
- Failing New Year’s resolutions
- Low motivation levels
But why today specifically?
It’s important to note that Blue Monday is not scientifically proven, yet closely relates to the symptoms associated with SAD.
The concept of Blue Monday has been criticised by mental health experts, and many consider it to be more of a marketing gimmick than a legitimate psychological phenomenon. But, if something has not been scientifically proven, does that invalidate how you are feeling? Absolutely not.Continue reading Have a Happy Blue Monday?