Why am I emotional?

Our emotions are ever-present in our lives. One moment we can be happy and the next emotional, with waves of sadness, anxiety or fear can come over us.

We are taught to run from our more difficult negative emotions (as discussed in the blog on anger and rage). And we are expected to be happy and content all the time but this is not realistic.

Circumstances arise which evoke different emotions if we don’t feel and deal with the ‘negative’ emotions we would never try anything new or have any hopes or dreams for the future.

Negative emotions

The negative emotions are important. Because they help regulate us, keep us safe, show when something isn’t right and motivate us to change.

Do you ever get angry at someone for stopping in the street suddenly or driving erratically? This is our response to unexpected or dangerous behaviour in our lives. The emotional anger or rage we feel is keeping us safe from a perceived imminent threat to our safety.

It is the same for sadness, depression, anger, they are telling us something is wrong and something needs changing. So, when those feelings come up we instantly distance ourselves from them. We bury them, because we don’t want to be labelled as ‘angry’.

If we start to listen and deal with those untouchable emotions, they will occur less and less. Sort out those issues that you have been putting off or are too scary to deal with. You can start to diminish the impact of those untouchable emotions are having on your life.

Feeling emotional: How to deal with it

If we do not deal with those emotions, we don’t know what’s wrong, and cannot we fix it.

So, to change your life, look at those buried emotions. Learn to use them, and don’t run from them. They are trying to tell us something. Listen to what they are saying.

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