Why are you attracting toxic people?

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Recently, someone reached out questioning why they seemed to constantly get involved with toxic people.

They commented that they always seemed to be around these types of people, even though they cause them a lot of anxiety.This is more common than you may think – so, here are four reasons why you might find yourself doing this and how to stop attracting them.


Who are you?

This is my first – not so simple – question to ask yourself. You need to understand why you find yourself in these negative situations by looking inward.

How do you act around others? Where do you find yourself in your friendship groups?  Are you usually the person following suit and doing what you’re told?

If this is the case, then what do you really think of this? Are you comfortable with what you’re doing and how you are acting?

Seeking validation

In other words, do you know how to make yourself happy? or do you always have to seek out the approval of toxic people?

Constantly seeking other people’s approval can come from many avenues. This could be from your childhood, where you were always expected to act a certain way in front of your friends at school and different in front of your parents.?

And when you act this way it will usually attract toxic people who will want to take advantage of this.

Are you following toxic people’s path

When you’re unsure about who you are and what you want from life, you’re going to look to others? decisions and embrace them as your own.

This is a very difficult situation to be in as it can be hard to find what will genuinely make you happy without seeking an answer from a third party.

Anxiety

Fear can be a huge hurdle to embracing your true self. You might be scared of your full potential or anxious about failure.

Anxiety sends a very strong signal to people who may have a toxic influence and it can be seen as a weakness.

The question, however, is what you are scared of and if you haven’t even tried to find out who you are, then how can you be afraid of what you haven’t even tried? There is no harm in it and failure is simply the next step towards success.

So, embrace the fear to find who you truly are and with that, any toxic person will no longer see you as an easy target.

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