So you wake up how do you feel? You go to work, meet up with friends but still feel rubbish. There is something you are not happy with and the only thing you can think of that there is something wrong with yourself. This could be your weight, your appearance or just to be happier in general.
What I want to do this week is to help you to feel happier about being you.
The only way that we can start to feel happier is to know that you are not the problem, and rather, you can be happier by changing parts of your life that you are not happy about.
So first, what do you think is wrong? List all the parts of your life that you are not happy about. There can be any reason for why you feel that you are not good enough. So pick one.
Next is to find out who you want to be. In an ideal world, what would you be doing? Who would you be?
To help you along the way ask yourself, where would you be living? What job would you have? What would you look like?
This is an important step as without knowing what you want you can’t start the journey to feeling happier with yourself.
Take a look at the differences between who you are now and who you want to be. They must look very different but that’s not a bad thing. If those lists looked the same and you were still unhappy, then you would have to reassess your happiness. ?But as you know what you want we can work on ways to get there.
A word of warning, change is going to be hard, it’s going to take time and effort, but if you couldn’t do it, you wouldn’t have made it this far as to acknowledge that something has to change.
How do you start to change?
Step ONE -Choose one thing that you want to change.
The reason why so many people don’t stick to their plans and never get to where they want to get to is that they take on too much. So start slowly and perfect one thing at a time.
Step TWO -Make a plan of what and how you are going to change.
For example, if someone wanted to lose weight:
You would list what is needed to start losing weight.
Which exercise you are going to do, running, yoga, CrossFit etc
Make a diet plan for the week
When to exercise throughout the week
What to give up to lose that weight (No chocolate every day, for example)
Step THREE -Set Long Term and Short Term goals
The reason that both are so important is that short-term goals keep you motivated and on track to reach your long-term goals. Remember that you have to start somewhere, and a goal a week from today can be more manageable than a goal a year from now.
Step FOUR is to START NOW!
Rather than watching fitness videos on youtube and essentially watching others do the work, go out and start exercising!
The best fitness YouTubers say the same thing, START RIGHT NOW! And this is something that I tell everyone. Whether your goal is to lose weight, get a new job or start a new hobby, stop thinking about it and start doing it now!
If you find it unmanageable, reassess your plans so that they fit into your life rather than giving up completely.
Once you have your goals ingrained within your life, then you can pick something else to change, that you want to achieve and use these steps all over again:
Step 1: What do you want to change or achieve?’
Step 2: Plan for change
Step 3: Set long and short term goals
Step 4: START NOW!
Remember, practice makes perfect.