


All relationships go through fluctuations of highs and lows. These ebbs and flows don’t have to mean regular arguments or feeling you are drifting apart. Couple counselling can give your relationship a fresh perspective of each other.
Each of you within your relationship will go through changes, and it can feel difficult to not let those changes impact on how you see each other.
What this does mean is ensuring that you are both growing in your own way, but are still due to meet again within this growth. You do this by seeing the other as their own person, yet as someone who also compliments who you want to be too.
If you are interested in couple counselling, this can mean that you are at a point where you need help in understanding each other, or you want to maintain the connection you have. Either way, couple counselling is the most beneficial way to continue communication with one another.
Does couple counselling work?
As with all counselling, you are opening up within the therapeutic space. What can seem more daunting is the idea that your partner will be in that room too.
This is why your professional counsellor is there to direct the sessions. They will ensure that each has expressed their own thoughts, and that you both feel safe to express how you feel. Doing this outside of your home gives you a space away from the stresses and distractions from your life that might interfere with conversations you’ve been meaning to have.
There doesn’t have to be a specific issue centred around yourselves as a couple, but this experience even strengthens who you are as an individual. Once you learn about what your partner expects, what you expect, and what you want of yourselves, you can build a new foundation of trust and motivation for the future.
Do we need therapy?
With all that being said, counselling usually begins with a catalyst and this can a range of issues including:
- Adultery
- Sex
- Communication issues
- Trust issues
- Lying
- Work-life balance
- Money
There is no issue too small to begin counselling and there doesn’t have to be a specific reason to feel like you need counselling. Sometimes – especially in long-term relationships – a couple can feel as if their interests do not align anymore. You may also feel as if you cannot open up to your partner the way you used it. There isn’t always a concrete cause to start therapy, you can just have a desire to strengthen what you have.
How can Therapy in London help us?
When beginning counselling with your partner, the first step is to understand what each other wants.
Feeling off-balance in a relationship is a difficult thing to pin point and what our specialist counsellors understand, is you both needing the time to really understand what brought you to therapy.
Within your sessions you are able to really listen to each other and open up in ways you may never have done before. Finding a new balance and a fresh perspective is possible once you are both ready to hear from one another.
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