When considering family counselling, you are likely experiencing either a breakdown in communication between your family or you want to bring your family closer together.
These are all valid reasons to want to begin family counselling. What it can do is open up lines of communication between you and your family.
When you have the confidential and neutral space to really reflect on your families experiences and feelings, you can gain candid insight into how they are feeling and how you feel within the family dynamic too.
What family counselling can help you with.
Beginning family counselling can seem like the worst case scenario – this isn’t the case, however. You must have heard throughout your life that you can choose your friends, but you cannot choose your family, but this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t put the work in to ensure your family remains as bonded as they can be.
Within the family dynamic there can be regular:
- Lack of boundaries
- Lack of communication
- Betrayal and disloyalty
These can be a common occurrence in families because you are surrounded by the same people for most or all of your life. You can all have a heightened expectation of how well you know each other. Combining that with the close proximity of a family home, then some cracks and rifts can form.
Meeting your family counsellor.
A family counsellor will be the impartial guide within your sessions. Their job will be to encourage discussion between you and your family and help you (and them) to, importantly, listen and fully understand each other’s perspectives.
Each session can bring a new outlook on some or many aspects of your relationships and the way you all think and act the way you do.
Your counsellor will ask open ended questions which can either be directed at one or all of you, and you take this session time to listen, appreciate and respond to each other.
Having an impartial go-between is beneficial as it can diffuse any tension from something said that may otherwise cause further rifts. It creates a safe space for you and your family to open up in ways you may otherwise not be able to.
With your counsellor there to steer the conversation forward, your family is able to grow and adapt to each other’s needs, creating a stronger bond and a happier family overall.
How Therapy in London can help.
Deciding to not only open up within counselling but to also open up in front of your family can seem daunting. This is why we believe that choosing the right counsellor is an important step in a successful counselling experience. Each of our counsellors is highly qualified and experienced, and we are able to fit the right practitioner to meet your expectations.
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