It can feel impossible to talk to a loved one when you’re feeling sad, upset or depressed.
When it comes to mental health you may feel that you should be able to cope by yourself. If you hurt your back, broke your arm or sprained your wrist, you wouldn’t hesitate to tell others that you had hurt yourself.
So, why should talking about your mental health be any different?
Evidence shows that talking to others can help reduce mental and emotional anguish, whilst also helping to overcome mental health issues.
I want to share 4 steps to help you to feel safe and be able to talk to others and get help in regards to your mental health.
Step 1. Pick the right person.
You may feel that you can’t talk to anyone in your life about your mental health because you’re scared that you will not be understood or judged.
This is why many seek the help of a counsellor or psychotherapist. However, finding someone that you can trust can get you on the way to sorting out and relieving the struggle of mental anguish and distress.
Look in your heart and find someone that you trust to listen to you, be there for you emotionally, and not tell others how you are feeling.
Step 2. Pick the right place.
It is best to not talk somewhere like in a packed bar or restaurant, but instead somewhere comfortable, contained and where you can be yourself.
Avoid having to look over your shoulder in case someone you know is there. Or the risk of being interrupted by others around you.
Step 3. Start small.
It might seem scary to talk to another about your problem, but rather than going right into it pick an aspect of your issue that you feel able to talk about first.
Start out small and when you feel ready to let that person into more of your issues. Go at your own pace and don’t feel pressured to tell them anything that you don’t feel ready to.
Step 4. Have Courage.
It takes a lot to talk about mental health issues. Society has taught us to keep calm and carry on. Therefore you’re not used to talking about hard-to-deal-with situations and emotions that dictate how you think act and feel.
You will want to be there for your loved ones when they need help. Yet when you need help yourself, you can feel unable to ask for it.
Just like you can be there for others, others can be there for you too.