Anger is your strong reaction related to feeling out of control.
When things feel beyond your control, anger is your instinctual response through self-defense.
Everyone feels this way in their life, but what is important to differentiate from is the level of anger you are experiencing.
Anger can occur in several ways:
- Feeling a strong annoyance, jealousy, or frustration
- Intentionally wanting others to feel bad
- Anger is a regular emotion and can usually be out of your control
Any level can be addressed and understood if you are willing to. Once understood you can then take back control of it. If these angry feelings are impacting your life and others around you, you are not in control of your emotions and you can find yourself succumbing to your anger on a regular basis and even allowing it to escalate.
What causes anger?
Anger is a feeling brought on by something you haven’t fully addressed in your life. Before feeling angry towards someone or something, there is a build-up of other, more controllable emotions such as:
These emotions provide early signs that something in your life needs addressing in order to quell that difficult emotion.
When those initial emotions are not addressed, they can snowball into several, stronger emotions like:
When it develops, it is used as a barrier of protection. It creates a short-term form of defense against the issues you are avoiding. You might recognise this defense in things such as:
- [Emotionally] pushing others away
- Scaring others
- Using anger as a way of avoiding certain situations or tasks
- Being angry becomes your go-to reaction to something surprising or out of your control
When you find that this temporarily works in deterring those deep unresolved feelings, they can even develop into serious, more physical reactions such as rage, violence, or even abuse to others and yourself.
This is why understanding your anger as early as possible is so important in resolving those underlying issues you may have. Accepting and understanding that you suffer from anger issues doesn’t have to feel like a confession or something to try and hide. Discussing and being open about your feelings is the most beneficial way to resolve those feelings.
How therapy can help.
If anger continues to not be addressed, it becomes a natural reaction to anything that may cause you other more hard-to-deal-with emotions.
As it continues to build it can become more uncontrollable, and this is where it can lead to more severe issues such as contributing to physical and mental abuse in others.
When you begin talking counselling, you are starting a journey of recovery and rebuilding. By following the roots of your anger you are delving into what you want from your life deep down, and what will give you the happiness you deserve.
How Therapy in London can help.
Anger can feel like an isolating emotion, this is why our main priority is for anyone to find refuge and safety with our practitioners. Our practice offers an unbiased and neutral space for you to come to terms with your feelings and past actions.
We are highly qualified with a variety of backgrounds in the mental health industry, so understand each of your needs. This gives your all the space you need to be your true self, with someone who can be nothing but supportive and on your side to discover the best side of you. Away from your anger.
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