Motivation is a key pillar for success, but how do you keep it up? Once you find your motivation then the next trick is sticking to and building on it.
Why do you become unmotivated?
Low motivation is a coping mechanism attempting to make you feel safe. This becomes an issue when your coping mechanisms are stopping you from trying new things or moving forward in your life.
Most of us will feel a bout of lack of motivation at some point. For a lot of people, it can be difficult to find it again and so you find it difficult to remember what it even felt like to feel motivated.
Even though there is difficulty in finding motivation again within yourself and what you want to do, anyone can find it again eventually.
Some common reasons why you lose motivation are:
- You are used to feeling comfortable.
Comfort is motivation kryptonite in some ways. Motivation thrives on new, exciting things, and feeling comfortable is something that can easily bind you to your current status quo.
- You can’t see far ahead enough.
Short-term rewards are great, they feed your ego right then and there. However, when it comes to those long-term tasks, it’s difficult to see the end and therefore difficult to know where to start.
- You end up doing things you find easier.
When you feel a lack of motivation, your mind will divert to something you know well and is less challenging. This could be anything from playing a video game, re-watching a show, or tending to your plants.
- Lack of self-belief as you don’t feel you can do the harder things.
What would you do in this scenario?
There is rubbish on the floor. Do you:
A. Pick it up and throw it in the bin. B. Kick it under the sofa.
Rubbish under the sofa is out of sight in the short term, but then creates more stress at the thought of that same task. Again, snowballing a simple task into a mountain of work for the future.
When you’re used to just doing what you find easy, that’s a quick way to convince yourself that your capabilities don’t go any further than that. This is why self-belief needs to be nourished by testing your own limits and pushing yourself to do those slightly harder tasks.
How to stay motivated.
It is not what anyone wants to hear, but the best way of gaining and maintaining motivation in anything you do is by always doing something new.
Being comfortable feels great, but when you lack the urge to challenge yourself, motivation can be hard to come by.
This is what short-term gain offers; a feeling of comfort and security. When life becomes safe, then personal development and growth can come to a halt.
There are many ways to gain motivation, but that starts with understanding what makes you feel safe now. What do you usually turn to when you feel unmotivated?
That habit is what is keeping you in that loop. Once you break that, feeling motivated because a more natural part of your day-to-day life.
How therapy can help with a lack of motivation?
It’s easy to say that finding where your lack of motivation is as easy as reflecting on your past habits. But that is not as simple for most people. This is why therapy is the most beneficial way of breaking those habits.
When you set aside that personal time for you to reflect, you can then find ways for you to break your own cycles.
Motivation is obtainable for anyone. Talking counselling and therapy is there to help steer you in the direction of growth and to find that drive again.
How can Therapy in London help?
What Therapy in London can offer is the opportunity to consider your own self-worth. You are able to use the time to really understand what you are capable of, what is holding you back, and utilise that to build your maximum potential.
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