Caring about what others think of you can hold you back and stop you from truly believing in yourself.
Do you constantly second guess yourself?
In essence, you are living so that other people are happy with your behaviour.
Let me be honest with you here – no one gets rich and no one is happy by always conforming to other people’s expectations.
Do you think that Christopher Columbus cared what other people thought of him when he said he wanted to sail to the edge of the earth?
Did Zuckerberg stop and think about what others thought when he created Facebook?
Even billionaires, adventurers and pioneers don’t listen to other people’s doubts and judgements. They listen to advise but follow their dreams and ambitions to create the life that they dreamt about and the life that they want to lead.
What’s stopping you from being like them?
In your mind, how would it feel to be confident enough to do the things that make you happy and live the life that you want to live?
I would like to propose a test
This is a shake-up to see who’s opinion or point of view you can trust and who you need to distance yourself from.
Step 1 – What would you like to achieve? For example, if you want to lose weight, draw up a basic plan of how you are going to do this. Have an idea of something that you want to achieve.
Step 2 – Begin talking to people about your idea. One group of people will inevitably say that it is a ‘stupid idea! what’s the point in that and that you will manage to do it.’ Another group will say that ‘it’s a great idea’, how are you going to do that? What’s your plan, how can I help?
The first group, are the reason why you are in this position. Their voices are rattling around in your brain whenever you think about doing anything new. Their judgement is holding you back.. These are the people that you need to distance yourself from.
The second group are true friends. They are interested in your happiness and intend to help you. Use their positive influence to bolster you and start surrounding yourself with people like this. People that pick you up rather than push you down.
You might think ‘Well then i’ll lose all my friends, then what?’
However, when you start to change your life for the better you find that you will meet new like-minded people. These will be people who have similar interests and your friendship groups will change.
Eventually, you will realise that you have what it takes to do whatever you want. Your voice and your own opinion were right all along, and other people’s judgements do not matter in the slightest.
You have what it takes to be the person you want to be.
Start believing that!